I think you've just answered your own questions. Arthur and Molly weren't an Animagus and werewolf, they didn't constantly have to alter their appearance at home to hide from the authorities, and they kept their activities in the Order secret by not mentioning them in front of the tots, as well as not inviting all the other fugitive members to holiday parties and meetings in their home.

No, I'm not thinking of keeping her prisoner here, not at all. If we did that, you'd have to come up with a story to tell the regulars. Of course 'She's getting too disruptive' is a perfectly fine excuse but people are accustomed to seeing her about at least some of the time.

I dislike the idea of Compulsion magic but it might be our best option. I'm sure Mother had a few books on the subject of Compulsion in Child-Rearing.

Circe, I hate that idea.